I remember watching the pros every time they social danced at a given dance social or club - I was inspired by their "cool" moves and smooth lead, following and styling. I told myself that I wanted to be like them, or at least, close to to their level.
Was I intimidated? Yes. Did I avoid them? No
There's a notion from certain groups I've been hearing for years. They either expressed their intimidation in disgust, or they expressed it with several excuses.
"Oh, don't go to that social, too many snobs."
"It's very hard to go to that exclusive club because no one likes to dance with me."
"I just want to go to a place where I can have fun and "feeling the music."
"I just want to be around people that's just like me, I love dancing with everyone."
So, here's my take with this notion...don't be a loser!
Imagine if you are still in junior high school and you get bullied on a daily basis, what are you going to do about it???
You have two choices. I suppose....
1) You can tell your parents to move you out of there and try finding a school that has no bullies (good luck on that one)
2) You can take self-defence courses, learn the art of confidence, etc. You can face the bully, fight for your right, and fight for all bullied victims.
But I digress...
I am simply tired of it, when certain dancers (mostly beginners that has been dancing for 500 yrs) complains and whines about "snobby dancers."
"I asked her to dance, and I felt so inadequate, and I felt like she wasn't enjoying it..."
SERIOUSLY? Can you imagine if you were actually having sex with her and she keeps yawning and rolling her eyes in a bad way....CAN YOU ACTUALLY BLAME HER???
"But, but, but, Sifu Rodchata, can't she be at least nice and understand that I ain't a pro?"
Being a "pro" has absolutely nothing to do with it!
Students learn to dance so that they can , guess what, DANCE! They start as beginners, then intermediate, then advanced....then pros, if they want to.
LEARNING HOW TO DANCE PROPERLY IS THE KEY...if you think you cannot keep up with him or with her, then you need to LEARN MORE and KEEP learning until you can satisfy her/him.
Do I have to go back with the sex analogy again????
CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO LEARN THE DANCE, TO LEARN THE ART OF FOLLOWING OR LEADING, NOT JUST LEARNING IT...MAKE IT YOUR VERY GOAL TO BE GOOD (You don't need to be the best. But if you want to, by all means, do it)
So stop making excuses. Go and learn to be a good dancer.
Bitching and complaining about isn't going to change a thing. It isn't going to change them because you can never change anyone...but you can change yourself. Besides...
If you think about it, the so called "snobs" also want to have fun dancing. If they get to dance with a beginner that have been dancing for 20 yrs, yet they still get yanked and injured by untrained dancers - I'm sure you'd agree that that is unacceptable.
Same goes with followers, you have to learn and continue honing followability - this is the key to being asked to dance often.
If you are satisfied where you are, as a beginner (even though you have been dancing for 10,000 yrs), and just content taking Nightclub dance classes occasionally, THEN DON'T BE CRYING WHEN SHE ROLL HER EYES AND SAY "NO THANK YOU" when you ask her to dance for the 2nd time.
Dance Festivals and Congresses , such as SF Bachata Festival or Bay Area Dance Festival, are the best vehicle for anyone that want to be good at dancing because there are so many dance subjects (workshops) to choose from from beginning to advance levels.
Rodchata Teaches Bachata Every Wednesday 730pm at Allegro Ballroom in Emeryville, CA
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